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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey

Overview

Stephen R. Covey's 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People' is a guide that explores the foundational principles of effectiveness in both personal and professional life. The book delves into habits designed to foster integrity, fairness, and human dignity.


Notes

  • "Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose" - Victor Frankl

  • No matter how dire our situation we will always have independent will - "The ability to act based on our self-awareness, free of all other influences"

  • It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us."

  • In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling but you can have the act of loving someone and in doing so many times will receive love back.

  • Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self


  • Different types of center (key is to be a balance of these centers and just not one center)

    • Spouse - centered

    • Family-centered

    • Money-centered

    • Work-centered

    • Possession-centered

    • Friend-centered

    • Enemy-centered

    • Church-centered

    • Self-centered

 

Paradigms and Principles:

Paradigm is how someone perceives reality. It is important to understand that everyone has a different paradigm and how they perceive reality can be different

 

Paradigm shifts is an important skill to learn to avoid placing blame on others and remembering others can be in a different situation. Example: A man walks on the train with kids and the kids start disrupting the train. Everyone on the train thinks this man is irresponsible for not controlling his kids. When asked to man to control his kids the man apologizes and says their mother passed away an hour ago and he doesn't know what to do.

 

Emotional Bank Accounts

  • Small acts of kindness

  • The Golden Rule

  • Apologize first, even if you don't think you're in the wrong

  • Clarify expectations

  • Keeping commitments

  • Don't gossip and talk behind the back's of others

  • Give effective feedback

 

First Rule: Be Proactive

  •  You are the creative force of your own life

  • Take responsibility

  • Your greatest power = the power to choose

  • "don't let life happen to you let life happen for you"

  • The circle of influence and concern

  • Focus on the circle of influence, mood, person health habits, choice of work, work / life balance

  

Second Rule: Begin with the end in mind

  • Funeral thought experiment

  • "Don't have your ladder leaning against the wrong wall"

  • All things are created twice

  • First created in thoughts, then in physical reality. It is important to remember how powerful your thoughts are

  • Personal Mission Statement

  • Something that will be your north star to always follow. Determines you character. You will never perfect this and continue to work on it but helpful to have a place to start.

 

Third Rule: Put First Things First

"Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least"

"the most important skill you can have in life in learning what to prioritize"

  • Think about your roles in life

 

Fourth Rule: Think Win / Win

  • Abundance mindset

  • Opposite is the scarcity mindset,

  • Don't always think in dichotomies

  • Don't compromise, win/win or no deal

  • Always be thinking emotional bank accounts first

 

 Fifth Rule: Seek first to understand and then to be understood

  • Don't listen with the intent to reply

  • Empathetic listening - the intention to go into try and understand their point of view and putting you in their shoes

 

Sixth Rule: Synergize

  • Effective people understand their own perceptual limitations and learn how to benefit from Diversity

 

Seventh Rule: Sharpen the Saw

  • Continual improvement

  • The 4 types of renewal

  • Physical Renewal

  • Mental Renewal

  • Emotional & Social Renewal

  • Spiritual Renewal

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